Halloween is this Friday, and I have stocked up on candy for the trick-or-treaters. We usually have a lot of children ring the doorbell, and I absolutely love opening the door and seeing little ones in their costumes (and the big kids too, who sometimes get really creative with their costumes…or not).
Through the years, I have had several teenage boys, who are not dressed up, knock on the door to get candy. So, one year I decided to be creative, and asked them what they were dressed up as. The first time I asked this, the two teenage boys in front of me looked confused, so I said, “You only get candy if you are dressed up. So, who are you dressed up as?” One of the boys said Batman, so I put candy in his bag. The second boy was still confused, but after prompting from his friend, he told me he was Superman, so I put candy in his bag. I have done this for several years, and I love asking the teenagers who are not dressed up to be creative and tell me who they are for Halloween.
Not one time has anyone said — I am dressed up as myself. We all feel this pressure to dress up and be somebody, but what about being yourself? Why do we feel the need to be somebody else? To act like someone else? To do exactly as we think we are supposed to, even if it is not who we are?
I understand that Halloween is a time for children to get to be super heroes and princesses. It’s fun to dress up as someone else, if only for one day. Yet, in real life, do you strive to be someone you are not? Do you wear a mask? Who do you dress up for? Yourself? Or to impress someone else?
There’s nothing wrong with dressing up. It’s certainly expected at special occasions or in a professional setting, and I’m not suggesting that you go to work in your pajamas! But it’s important to know why you are dressing up. If you’re trying to impress someone, who and why? Are you dressing in a way that reflects you? Does it make you feel comfortable and confident?
You need to start with impressing yourself…and being yourself. You are best at being you, so be YOU! Dress for yourself, and not to turn yourself into someone you are not (except on Halloween night, of course). You are a unique, special individual. Go show the world how awesome YOU are. Be YOU and choose YOU.
Oh, and stop by my house on Halloween, so I can ask you who you dressed up as, and hopefully you will say I dressed up as myself! Although on Halloween, I hope you dress up as a character. It’s just fun to be someone else for a day.
May you have only get treats on Halloween! And always Choose Happy!