by Melissa Nickelson, personal life coach
I was rushing around, trying to get as much done as possible. Sound familiar? I had appointments all afternoon, but had a little time to get a few things done. So, I decided to start putting things away after a remodeling project at the office. I was eager to get things back in order. I was in a hurry, climbing the step stool to reach the top shelf (in high heels) and my right foot slipped. Being the graceful person I am, I quickly decided that I was not going to fall, so instead I caught myself and slammed that foot down hard. OUCH! It hurt. I figured it would hurt for a while and then go away.
I have things to do. I am busy. So I told myself to just keep moving, keep going……. Well, the pain did not go away, and several days later, there was no doubt that I could no longer ignore it.
It turns out that I have a stress fracture. That means I also have new, not-so-attractive footwear. So long, high heels! At least for a while…
As I continue to heal, wearing my not-so-attractive footwear, I am reminded of how many times we keep going, moving on through the pain in our lives (emotional and/or physical) without really acknowledging it. How many times have you said “I don’t have time for this”?
We are all busy, and we don’t like to be inconvenienced. Yet, how many times do we re-live an “ouch” moment? If someone says something hurtful to us, how many times do we just let it go and not say anything, because we don’t want to cause a scene or conflict? But later…we wish we had said something.
Sometimes, simply saying the word “ouch” may be enough to let others know they hurt your feelings. You do not have to be rude when you say it. People may not be aware they are hurting your feelings by what they say, so acknowledging it by simply saying “ouch” makes them aware that they did. If you just can’t say it to them, at least say it out loud to yourself.
It’s important to acknowledge your pain, whether it is physical or emotional. If you are hurting, and you ignore it, the pain will eventually catch up to you. Deal with it. It’s not going to go away if you don’t.
We are all responsible for taking care of ourselves. If we don’t, who will? So, take care of yourself. I know you’re busy, but do you really have time to re-live “ouch” moments later?
Oh, and just a reminder: step stools and high heels do NOT mix!
Choose happy! (and be safe)